Help with panic attacks.?

Thursday, July 9th, 2009 at 2:13 am

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Iam a 23 year old guy.Coz of my past severe childhood mental nd emotional trauma nd growing up in a strict religious and dysfunctional family,I developed intense fear nd painful shyness,panic attacks,social phobia during early teenage years..Even now as an adult,every time I go out alone or with someone, I feel as if everyone is staring at me nd finding fault with me.This has affected my love life as well to the extent that every time a girl shows interests in me,I turn them off coz of my inner flaws or I get too hesitant to get into a romantic relationship nd prefer being friends.So,I never had a girlfriend before..It is affecting my social life and other areas as well..I tried all of that postive thinkings stuff,affirmations,prayer for a long time, with only a little improvement.Going to church didn’t make it any better as I grew up in a strict Christian household where I used to be scolded as a child when I didn’t want to pray.Strange as all of this might sound,please offer advice

I went through those same kinds of things as a teenager–I’d literally start shaking with when my classmates were looking at me, as classmates always do when you’re in the front of the class giving a boring talk on–who remembers what–not that my classmates were even paying attention…

Oh yeah, and when a cute guy paid attention to me? I’d stiffen up and walk away from them like a snob, out of fear, and think, "Oh God, why am I doing this–I LIKE that guy!" It’s like my BODY would become this snob-like person WITHOUT my permission!

THEN I learned to STOP THINKING about myself, and START THINKING about the other person. Go up to Susan and ask, "How’s your brother Joe since he hurt his arm in soccer the other day?" or "I saw you walking your dog–what kind of dog is that?" or "What topic did you decide on for your project in Mr. Smith’s class? Focus on THEM? Ask them about THEM.

And give them EYE CONTACT. QUALITY eye contact. It ALWAYS works.

My personal opinion regarding harsh Christianity? FORGET IT. and my Catholic priest cousin would agree with that. No decent Christian household would lend itself to scolding when a child didn’t pray. Prayers are spontaneous things from the heart. A loving Christian doesn’t force another Christian to pray.
Guilt is UNHEALTHY, NOT JUST to you but to the people around you— so let it go. Don’t worry. Be happy.

Wishing you well, magicbird.

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tweedy

I wish I could clear your mind of your past, but this is something you must do yourself. Realize you were created by God and God wants you to fear nothing he said go in peace and love yourself as you do for others. please don't keep punishing yourself for the abuse that was forced upon you as an innocent child of God. You are the chosen one to break the chain of abuse.You were a victim of circumstance. I'm sure God feels your pain, but you would be pleasing him to let go.Feel free to ask a girl out, if she is a good girl she can bring you peace of mind .I could say much more than this but I'm confident you will overcome this. We are only here to show love for one another,this will bring you joy. Peace be with you. Sincerely,tweedy
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blue

This is a tough one and I admire your courage to talk about it. You see you have already taken the first step by coming here and opening up to others and by you realizing that you need to make this change, you will. The more you talk about a traumatic event, the less traumatic it becomes.keep sharing with others-it helps. Have you thought about anti depressants? Women like guys who can open up with them about how and why they are feeling the way they do. You never know what will happen unless you try. get out there, don't worry about what others are thinking about you, you don't have to see them ever again anyway-who cares! You need to know that YOU are somebody and not a failure. Keep your faith in God-He works in mysterious ways. The next time you feel uneasy again,-STOP the thought and think about something else-even candy or baseball! God Bless and keep you!
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magicbird

I went through those same kinds of things as a teenager--I'd literally start shaking with when my classmates were looking at me, as classmates always do when you're in the front of the class giving a boring talk on--who remembers what--not that my classmates were even paying attention...

Oh yeah, and when a cute guy paid attention to me? I'd stiffen up and walk away from them like a snob, out of fear, and think, "Oh God, why am I doing this--I LIKE that guy!" It's like my BODY would become this snob-like person WITHOUT my permission!

THEN I learned to STOP THINKING about myself, and START THINKING about the other person. Go up to Susan and ask, "How's your brother Joe since he hurt his arm in soccer the other day?" or "I saw you walking your dog--what kind of dog is that?" or "What topic did you decide on for your project in Mr. Smith's class? Focus on THEM? Ask them about THEM.

And give them EYE CONTACT. QUALITY eye contact. It ALWAYS works.

My personal opinion regarding harsh Christianity? FORGET IT. and my Catholic priest cousin would agree with that. No decent Christian household would lend itself to scolding when a child didn't pray. Prayers are spontaneous things from the heart. A loving Christian doesn't force another Christian to pray.
Guilt is UNHEALTHY, NOT JUST to you but to the people around you--- so let it go. Don't worry. Be happy.

Wishing you well, magicbird.
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moniquemartyn

I am only 15, I suffer from TERRIBLE panic attacks. I have a huge case of Anxiety. Your not alone, and i got sked out by someone today ctually, and i hd a panic attack, i dont know why, but i did. I advise that you should just keep reminding yourslef that everything will be ok today, thats what i do, and when you feel like your going to have a panic attack, just go get a drink, and breathe deaply, thats the only thing you can do. I also went to a physisactic and they gave me something that helped out heaps! Goodluck!
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Iam C

see a therapist. they will help you to work through all your problems & get your life on track.
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shawn p

minus the strict religious part, sounds exactly like me... lets just say i found an 'alternative medicine'...
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